One of the things I’m struggling with the most during the adoption process is the focus on me. All the talking about myself. 60-90 minute meetings with my social worker, with themes like:
- early life and childhood
- work and relationships
- how I was parented, how I might parent
- how will my life change if I adopt
Its like therapy without any actual therapeutic benefit. And its hard – I want to be honest, but really, how honest do I need to be? When my social worker queried my ecomap, and asked about male role models, I had to fight back the urge to bemoan the fact that there are fucking male role models everywhere, and the very *least* of my concerns are “is my child going to have enough men in their life”. but you know, angry queer feminist probably isn’t a good look for a potential adopter!