me me me

One of the things I’m struggling with the most during the adoption process is the focus on me.  All the talking about myself.  60-90 minute meetings with my social worker, with themes like:

  • early life and childhood
  • work and relationships
  • how I was parented, how I might parent
  • how will my life change if I adopt

Its like therapy without any actual therapeutic benefit.    And its hard – I want to be honest, but really,  how honest do I need to be?  When my social worker queried my ecomap, and asked about male role models, I had to fight back the urge to bemoan the fact that there are fucking male role models everywhere, and the very *least* of my concerns are “is my child going to have enough men in their life”.  but you know, angry queer feminist probably isn’t a good look for a potential adopter!

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